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Getting back into the dating game after a hiatus due to heartbreak can be tough for anyone – but especially so if you’re recently divorced.

Unlike a regular breakup (which, for the record can be just as awful, we are not saying that being married is the pinnacle of love), there are so many layers to get over.

Maybe you own a home together and have to stay in touch until it’s sold, or perhaps you have children, meaning you will remain in contact forever.

Then there’s the shared possessions, the pets, the common friends, the in-laws.

Even if you both decide that divorce is the right thing to do, it can still be heart-wrenching to let go of the future you once imagined together.



There are a lot of questions after a divorce.

How do you know when you’re ready to move on? How do people date now? And should you tell prospective partners about your past straight away?

Here, we endeavour to answer all of these, and more, with the help of relationship experts.

How to know if you’re ready to date again

Rule one: don’t rush into something new.

‘Take your time,’ says Claire, a matchmaker and dating coach.

‘Consider doing some therapy first to work through unresolved feelings. You don’t